Kay has represented countless Kansas City-area clients in a number of family matters. She has handled traditional dissolution of marriage actions, paternity actions for non-married parents, and helped gays and lesbians establish or dissolve formal relationships. She has also assisted stepparents in adopting stepchildren, grandparents in obtaining visitation rights and family members in obtaining guardianships of both minors and adults. She is known for her dignity, credibility, and respect both in and out of the courtroom.
In her probate practice, she has handled estates of all sizes, from $40,000 to several million dollars. She has assisted in distributing art collections to museums, and has shepherded the sales of professional practices. Her practice has also involved the valuation and sale of numerous kinds of real estate, including many rental properties.
Kay has spoken on and given several presentations relating to the legal issues that affect the gay, lesbian, and transgender community. She was a regular guest on KKFI’s The Tenth Voice and has contributed to the Clark Boardman publication, Sexual Orientation and the Law. She has given peer reviews for an ABA publication, Estate Planning for Same-Sex Couples and for a local ACLU publication The Rights of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered People in Missouri and Kansas. She also gives presentations on the topic of collaborative law at seminars and was honored to speak with Stu Webb, founder of the collaborative law movement, at Lavender Law, the annual conference of the National Lesbian and Gay Law Association, of which she is a member.
The highlights of her legal work are meeting interesting people, imparting useful information to them, and assisting them in untangling their legal problems. She is an unswerving advocate for her clients and is very committed to helping them understand the legal process
U.S. Federal Court, 1983
University of Missouri-Kansas City School of Law, Kansas City, Missouri
J.D., Doctor of Jurisprudence
University of Missouri, Columbia, Missouri, 1972
M.A., Master of Arts
Mount Saint Scholastica College, Atchison, Kansas, 1971
B.A., Bachelor of Arts
Professional Associations and Memberships
National Lawyers Guild, 1982–Present
National Lawyers Guild Foundation Board, 2005–2006, Secretary
Kansas City Metropolitan Bar Association Member
Missouri Bar Association
International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
National Lesbian and Gay Law Association
Honors and Awards